tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7731762173286561871.post3068853531910824291..comments2023-10-11T11:58:15.514-04:00Comments on honor yourself: comment inspired......terri st. cloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15051778033153655065noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7731762173286561871.post-10142230239521625622010-11-09T10:50:11.295-05:002010-11-09T10:50:11.295-05:00Beautifully written.
I grieved for 7 years over m...Beautifully written.<br /><br />I grieved for 7 years over my boyfriend leaving me in college. I grieved for 5 years when another boyfriend left me in my mid-30's. I grieved for 2 years when I was abandoned at age 49.<br /><br />I understand.Constancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02702046097986873803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7731762173286561871.post-29707587690321832572010-11-07T17:42:54.261-05:002010-11-07T17:42:54.261-05:00yep
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And grieving, is many things, I still gr...yep<br />amen.<br />And grieving, is many things, I still grieve for Love, and faith and trust and things I lost along the way,<br />and I have learned that no matter who says what,<br />My grief is important<br />to me.<br />~hugs~Sorrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03058557348955007784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7731762173286561871.post-55541750018364453982010-11-07T16:41:07.692-05:002010-11-07T16:41:07.692-05:00Colleen, I'm another one who agrees that our g...Colleen, I'm another one who agrees that our grief is OURS alone and the process looks different from person to person...if a beam of light is all you can handle right now (me too), then that's enough...it's all just enough right now.<br /><br />*hugs*<br />WROWild Roaming One (WRO)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01762254175109500676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7731762173286561871.post-48529617873555416972010-11-07T16:24:46.442-05:002010-11-07T16:24:46.442-05:00Coleen...it has been 30 years since my son died. ...Coleen...it has been 30 years since my son died. My grief was raw for a very long time, and I really don't remember when the change occurred. All I can say is that when you are ready to put down some of the pain, you will. It's that simple. I came to understand that grief is love turned inside-out -- when we love deeply, we grieve deeply, because we pay attention to all the special things about the people we love. When they die, we have a whole lot to miss. I will forever miss my son, but the ache is not constant any more. I think part of the healing is to go on loving deeply so that your life has a balance of joy to offset the pain. Your grief is what you feel, not who you are. Obviously, you have loved deeply. That is a nice kind of person to be. Be kind to yourself and don't listen to the people who just don't get it. They are trying to make themselves feel better.Pamela Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14870206693811755992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7731762173286561871.post-18925093849781010662010-11-07T13:17:40.946-05:002010-11-07T13:17:40.946-05:00Thank You...Thank You...Thank You..you put into wo...Thank You...Thank You...Thank You..you put into words exactly how I feel at times...<br />Sometimes "I worry that I worry" that I am dwelling in the dark...so, I do try to slip into the light..even for only a moment...thats all I can handle sometimes...a beam of light...that is what you are to me and again "I Thank You!"<br /><br />Heart Hugs,<br />ColeenColeenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04901420499157807664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7731762173286561871.post-85471240307986155302010-11-07T12:07:53.549-05:002010-11-07T12:07:53.549-05:00I know there are plenty of books written about the...I know there are plenty of books written about the grief process. I wish I had a list so I could share it. But reading about it and feeling it are different things. <br /><br />Grief I think is as personal as love. Think of all the ways we can love someone. Now imagine if all those ways suddenly (or not so suddenly for those who care for someone who has a long illness/death) disappeared. IT's not that you can't get over it, you can. But in your OWN WAY and OWN TIME. Nobody else can tell you how to put the pieces of your heart and life (and maybe your pocketbook) back together again. Special dates, songs, smells, colors, old shirts, burned dinners, holidays, movies, and a kazillion other things can all bring up memories that will either make you laugh or cry or both <br /><br />Please, please don't let someone else tell you how to feel your loss. <br /><br />I'm not Jewish, but a saying that I heard at a Synagogue went something like this: joy shared is doubled, grief shared is halved. Find someone you trust to share your grief with and the pain won't magically disappear, but it will be diminished some.<br /><br />My two cents!Merry MEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00462036349233154101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7731762173286561871.post-25124073722455397152010-11-07T10:07:11.715-05:002010-11-07T10:07:11.715-05:00Bravo Star Woman...Wise Wise Wise words!
You know...Bravo Star Woman...Wise Wise Wise words!<br /><br />You know something...I'd kick someone to the moon if they said that crap to me...my own Mother passed in 1964 and even still it can bring me to my knees and my son passed in 1994 and it still brings me to my knees. There is no timeline for emotion to sweep over us, or grief. It is what it is and when it comes I just fall into it because to ignore it would dishonor all of us as you've shared. I'm so glad you posted this today!!!!<br /> At the time of my son's death my Mother's Sister said to me...how unfortunate that your son passed away before you...it isn't in the natural order of things and I looked at her like she was a green-horned caterpiller...What? There is order in Death? You have got to be kidding me! There is no order in death and there is no order in grieving...<br /> Bless you for bringing this to everyone's awareness!!!AkasaWolfSonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04128887650617351563noreply@blogger.com