Tuesday, December 3, 2013

sounds simple enough...but jeesh!

i read something the other nite that i realized worked for all relationships.

the guy was talking about the secret of marriage and he said to realize
that you are different.

ahhhhhhh such a simple statement, but one that really really hits the mark.

the times i get in trouble with my partner are when i forget that.
i forget and assume we work the same, think the same, feel the same.

whoa. really not helpful.

and it occurred to me, that it's like that with everyone.
how about as a parent with your kids?
that's an easy one to forget!
friends with friends.
siblings with siblings........

it gets forgotten a lot, doesn't it?
at least i forget it a lot.

and then i get disappointed.

and i have to stop and look at that.

disappointed in what?

that they aren't like me?

well nooooooooo.........i honestly wouldn't want that.

so then.........maybe i should rethink that disappointnent?

i think truly loving, truly seeing means we remind ourselves over and over
that we're different - and that it's a good thing we are.

and if we don't understand something about how another reacts, or works,
or feels.......then ask!

such simple concepts.
and yet.........
stuff i forget daily.


Diane in AR said...

Smiling with you - Joe and I have been married 45 years and somehow it still astonishes me that we are different, that we don't think the same, that he can't read my mind. . .it's a good thing we ARE different - in all relationships - makes life infinitely more interesting, right? Thanks for the reminder that I'm not the only one who forgets. . .

terri st. cloud said...

gosh, diane....if i could only remember!!!