communication

i got a bird's eye view of two people making an effort
to really communicate with each other. i got to watch,
even participate a little bit, but mostly i got to watch
right up close...

and it wasn't working.
and they had no clue of HOW MUCH it wasn't working.

how do we talk to each other so that everyone's
heard and understood?

is it really possible???

how do we talk so there's real progress made??

there's blinders, baggage, and motivations that
get so in the way that it really seems out of
reach most times.

so i sit and think of the times i've seen communication
work...
what's made it that way???

true caring for the other person.
belief in the other person...that they can hear and respond.
balanced perspective....that both people matter equally.
a willingness to give.

yeah.
i think you gotta have those things......

now......throw in the blinders, baggage and motivations....
and even if you have all that, it ain't easy.

what if you DON'T have all that???
do you even try???

i just sat here and looked at the list......
i know of one person i can't communicate with....i have three
of the things on the list...which seems really good.
but i lack the belief they can hear and respond.
so i don't even try.
hmmm........

so what do you do??
do you admit defeat and get out of each other's way???

wow.....
i wonder.........