lessons on loving from a distance

i was making my bed this morning thinking about somebody
i know who seems really really selfish. but it's
not that simple. there's a lotta things mixed in this person.
and i see some of the good stuff. and i really care about
him.

so i thought about it...started thinking of the reasons
why he's like he is.

started thinking about a couple of other people i know who
seem selfish also. i have a harder time with them than with
this guy. thought about all of that. the thing is, when i really
sit myself down and look at all of them, i can see why they
are like they are.

annoyance falls away to sympathy.
understanding part of someone certainly helps.
takes that anger edge off.

thing is.....every single one of these people looks like
they've got their heels dug in pretty deep and change doesn't
look like it's on the horizon for any of them.

what do i do with that??
accept and keep goin, i guess.

allow them to be who they are.....
keep tryin' to see why....
and know that i won't get anything i need from them....
except lessons for myself that i find myself.

and one lesson i know is not to hang too close to these
people.
love from a distance.

hard for me....but one of the lessons they can offer me.
love comes in many different forms.
i just need to learn some of the different ones better
and better...

i can do that.

and that's enough.