i just got the most amazing note from a guy i bumped into
this man has made me smile more than once now. and today,
he brought tears to my eyes.
i loved this and asked if i could share it here.
he graciously agreed.
Something to pass on a long to men who are willing to listen:
Men often complain to me that a woman in their life seems to remember every way in which she has been hurt and 'saves ' them like some sort of ammo for a fight, with no statutue of limitations. I have found that is not the case. There are many things we all do to each other, that we forgive each other for w/o a second thought. But what we men fail to realize is that she is telling you how she needs to be shown love. The things we have done or failed to do that she remembers, perhaps going back 10-20 years have a commonality- they tell a story. If we stop focusing on how uncomfortable we feel in having to face how we have hurt someone we care about, and just listen, we may hear 'this is when I felt you didn't love me...here, here, here...and here. Do you see now?"
She remembers those particular things because they communicate something, not because she is petty.