a new tehcnique...

i had an encounter recently with a woman who treated me in a way i have
never ever experienced before.

it wasn't good.
it pretty much sucked.

but the beautiful thing was that i was removed enough from her not to be affected
or to have my feelings hurt. so i could look at it and try to figure it out. try to
see what on earth was going on.

but i was still stuck.
i couldn't figure it out.

and then i decided to write about her.
and to do that, i had to look closely at her.
and in doing that, i felt so much compassion.
i could see how some of her unhealed wounds were pulling her under
in a way that affected her whole life.

the more i wrote, the more compassion i felt.

i've always believed that if we understand something or someone that's hurt us/
'wrong us'/or done something that feels weird, we'd find compassion. but sometimes
i couldn't figure the stuff out. just too darn confusing.

this was such a great opportunity as the feeling of being 'removed' made it a lot easier.
the writing about her was a new technique that really worked well.
how could i write from the heart without trying to see hers?

wow.
who knew?

and the thing is, i don't think we have to be 'writers' to do this.
i think anyone can do this.
and i'm thinking it could really make a difference.

thought it'd be fun to toss out here!