required classes......

sometimes i sit and figure out great classes
we need to offer in school.

there'd be a lot more practical psych courses,
courses in what love means, courses in self worth,
courses in how to deal with anger and disappointment...
and a class in apologies.

apologies are so powerful.
and when they're missing, it's equally as powerful.

someone once told me how her husband never says
'i'm sorry.' and when she does, he angrily tells
her it's too late. he doesn't want it.

i've seen people who could have made such headway
with a situation by a simple, sincere 'i'm sorry'
just never say it. i've watched the entire course
of conversations change because of that. i have
sat in bewilderment wondering how that could never
have been said.

i've seen the completely empty apologies. those
are worse than nothing, i think.

and i've seen ones that have seemed empty and yet
somewhere down in there they mean it, they just
have to hide it behind the empty look. there's
some weird pride mixed in.

why??

josh loves to tell me the story of when he was
a kid and i'd tell him he needed to apologize to
his brother, he'd say 'i apologize.' which to him
didn't mean he was sorry at all. it was an entirely
different thing. if he said 'i'm sorry.' well then,
he meant that. in his kid mind, there was a handy
little difference.

that's turned into quite a joke around here. and
now if i sincerely say 'i apologize' it usually
gets met with laughter.

i've always been quick to apologize. quick to feel
what the other person feels. i tend to overdo the
apologies. i actually have to work on toning them
down.

so i'm totally lost when someone doesn't offer one.
that'd be such a great topic in a class.

can you imagine all the things we could teach
the kids growin' up.....

heck....maybe these need to be college courses as well.

heck.....maybe these need to be offered all thru life.
required.

required classes in love, humanness, and kindness.....

hmmmmmmm.......
now there's a thought......