okay, so i think if i ever got this man alone,
i'd have to lock him in a room with me and never let him out!
this is the same author of the love/fear book i'm reading.
i haven't even finished that one, but figured i also needed
to be reading this one - 'when the past is present' -
(just added this to the little amazon widget...i tell ya,
these books are like gold)
in getting to the place i did yesterday (see blog below)
i opened this book looking for help.
oh. my. gosh.
gonna share some of the great lines i read....
he's talking about transference, which is what i feel i've
been doin' a bit lately.
'transference is a habit in all people regardless of their
parenting background.'.....'transference is a homing instinct
in the psyche.'......'
i liked those lines just cause i was feelin' like a great
big dork. and this helped me show myself some compassion.
'this inclination of ours can help us when
it works to reconstitute the past so that we can explore what our
hidden issues are and how they can be laid to rest.'
okay, so i liked that...give me something positive to hold here!
'it takes conscious noticing, catching ourselves in the act of
transference, slipping out of the grip of the past, and what may
be a fire walk in to the real present. psychological freedom happens
when we find the courage to enter the here-and-now reality of
ourselves and others, shorn of the decorations and detritus of our history.'
the firewalk part slipped in there? he's so not kidding.
'we do not eliminate transference; we decant it. we do not kill it
as david killed goliath. we wrestle with it respectfully as did jacob
with the angel, until it yields its blessing. the blessing is the
revelation of what we missed or lost and the grace to grieve it rather
than transfer it.'
oh my gosh.
this man so talks to me.
and the wrestling comment........i had that.....but didn't have
the words. when he read what he said...i knew that's what i'd been
feeling. and i'd been thinking that i need to wrestle.
back from a gorgeous bike ride and tired....
but feelin' tickled that i have this book right here with me.
he's gonna help me a lot.....