here's stuff for ya....did i ever say where i got that last stuff about allowing from?
i'm sorry. it's from 'daring to trust' by david richo....as is this......
'our survival needs are about comfort; our emotional needs are about challenge.'
I LOVE THAT!
'unfortunately, we are not equally geared to having healthy relationships.
so we have to work on making intimacy and other growth needs a priority
because our body has survival mode as its primary default setting. this explains
why we might stay in a relationship that is not working: we imagine that we need
it on a survival level. with healthy boundaries, we make a choice for personal
happiness and sanity. we then no longer believe we need a relationship in order
just thought that was awesome....had to share.........