some years back i figured out some kinda cool concept and did an audio
on it. at the time i was doin' weekly audios. and then shortly after that,
i read erich fromm's book 'to have or to be?'.......where he was explaining
the same thoughts that i had rambled about in the audio!
oh gosh, that was so cool. i was thinking like erich fromm! talk about a tickle!
he, of course, was a tad more articulate and grown up about the whole thing.
i think i had some goofy phrase for it all....actually, it was a dr. suess kinda title
that i gave the whole thing.
okay, so now all these years later i think about it and i think....okay, they
weren't the same at all! but! they did go together nicely! so much for the tickle
of being fromm-like. sigh. it was nice while it lasted.....
let me start with fromm's stuff. (seems only fair).......
i think you can kinda say it like this......
the basic point was that you wanted to live life like a verb, not a noun.
the verb would be the 'be' part. the noun would be the 'have' part.
love's a great topic to use for an example.
and here's straight from his book -
this is the 'have' part.....
'When love is experienced in the mod of having it implies confining,
imprisoning, or controlling the object one 'loves.' It is strangling, deadening,
suffocating, killing, not life-giving. What people call love is mostly a misuse
of the word, in order to hide the reality of their not loving.'
( i just want to hop up and down and scream YES! to that part!)
here's the 'be' part......
"In reality, there exists only the act of loving. To love is a productive
activity. It implies caring for, knowing, responding, affirming, enjoying:
the person, the tree, the painting, the idea. It means bringing to life,
increasing his/her/its aliveness. It is a process, self-renewing and self-increasing.'
(okay, i want to hop up and down all over again and scream YES!YES!YES!)
so all this sparked much excitement in me over here.
the ol' "to have or to be" stuff, ter!
gotta get back to looking at that.
i think it may spark a million blogs....or at least two or three more......
i've gotten completely fuzzy on the concept and have to go back and really look again.
cause i really have totally forgotten so much of this.
i just know it's a way of looking at your life that puts in perspective what you're doing.
and that that right there is enough to get us started. anyone else want to look at their
day and what they're doin' with it? we can play with that concept a bit.
and i dug out my audio from years ago and listened.
my gosh, i can ramble.
i'll sort thru those thoughts in a bit here.
right now i'm gonna take a walk and think about the noun/verb stuff!
was so excited i wanted to get it right out here so anyone else who wanted to
play could too!